The Ideal Family

Every person longs to have the kind of a family that is the ideal for him. When we talk of an ideal family, it means that it is the family that a person views to be perfect. Even in a person’s early years in life, admiration of different families starts and thus making one dream of having a family someday that is picture perfect for him. Although there are different forms of family that are being accepted and acknowledged, the choice still depends upon one's perspective. What kind of family then should a person have? There are three main characteristics that I deem to be essential in having an ideal family. First, it must have a traditional style. Second, it must have only two to three children. Third,it must have religion.

A traditional family is a functional family in structure. “Every member has is own appropriated function” according to G. N.dime (n.d.) The father is delegated to find means for the whole family’s subsistence. He works and is known to be the bread winner of the family. He will provide the physiologic needs of family and fill the house with love, happiness, security and discipline. He is also the one who can be called the head in reference to problem solving and decision making. On the other hand, the mother has an extraordinary task in the family and that is to take care of the entire household; this means that she attends to the different needs of the family; she will be the one that wakes up early and sleeps late at night and is a role model in the house; she also has the responsibility of inculcating the best values in their children and giving them the best of care. The children have to take their education and help the mother to clean the house and in other basic household tasks. The traditional type of family is considered as an ideal type of family. The children, who are the center of care, love and attention must be instilled with good values because they are the pillars of the family. In this type of family, each has to function well and must do their part to make it an ideal family.

The choice of number of children varies with parents; others desire to have one child only, to focus on their care and attention and to securely provide all that they need. However, two or three children are providing to be the ideal one. This is based on practical and economical reasons like cost. Having a small number of children would provide great opportunity for education and experience in life. Giving a child an educational program these days costs big and giving him a perfect life costs even bigger. Having many children could cost them their ability to fulfill physical, emotional and mental needs in economic crises. Having Some children in the family opens opportunities.

An ideal is religious because believe in God is the foundation of a strong family and a wonderful home. It comprises a responsible father, loving mother and the obedient children. This means that having God at home is a perfect home for a family “in which joy, peace, kindness, gentleness, patience and love overflows” according to Sun Myung moon. As Rev. Sun Myung Moon would say, “The ideal family is the place of the eternal love of parents, the eternal love of husband and wife, and the eternal love of children centering upon God. Rev. Sun Myung Moon indeed captured the essence of an ideal family, which is beneficial to all because having God means good work” (n.d., para.10). God preaches people to be good and not mandated by evil.

Society will greatly benefit if all people will have this kind of family. In a structured family, even if the father is working, the mother can take care of the children and has the time to guide and teach them with values. Having only two to three children would entail a great chance in having all the people in a society to have proper education and a comfortable life. Finally, in a family that believes in God, people will surely do away from misconduct and evil deeds because the primary teaching of God is to do good to others.

In conclusion, the family that a person should have is the traditional family, having two to three children and believing in God in their lives. This is the best kind of a family; our society will have peace and harmony.



Reverence

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Reverend Sun Myung Moon.(n.d.) Blessing and Ideal Family. Retrieved July 30, 2007 from
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Characteristics of The Christian Family. (2005). Studyjesus.com . Retrieved July 31, 2007, from http://www.studyjesus.com/more/the_family/characteristicsofthechristianfam.htm